Memory concerns: what’s normal and what to check

Memory worries are common—and scary. This page helps you sort normal changes from worth-checking changes, and shows how to prepare for a helpful visit.

Section: Common Issues

Two truths (1) Mild “where did I put my keys?” moments can be normal. (2) Big changes in memory, language, or daily function are worth checking—especially if they’re new.

Step 1: What exactly is changing?

Memory: forgetting appointments, repeating questions, losing track of dates
Language: trouble finding common words
Judgment: new risky decisions, getting scammed, unsafe cooking/driving
Daily function: bills, medications, navigation, cooking

Step 2: Check “common fixable” contributors

Sleep (including possible sleep apnea)
Mood (depression/anxiety can look like memory trouble)
Hearing and vision (poor input = poorer recall)
Medication effects (sedating meds, anticholinergic meds, interactions)
Illness (UTI, dehydration, infection can worsen thinking temporarily)

One low-effort win If hearing is declining, addressing it can improve communication, mood, and cognitive “load.” It’s not about vanity—it’s about brain energy.

When to get checked soon

Symptoms are getting noticeably worse month-to-month
Daily tasks are becoming hard (meds, bills, navigation)
Family/friends notice changes you don’t

Red flags (urgent)

Sudden confusion or dramatic behavior change (hours to days)
New one-sided weakness, severe headache, speech trouble
Confusion with fever, dehydration, or severe illness

What to bring to an appointment

A list of symptoms and examples (2–3 concrete stories)
Medication + supplement list
A family member/friend if possible (extra eyes/ears help)

Ask your clinician (starter questions)

“What serious causes are we ruling out?”
“Could any of my medications or supplements contribute?”
“What is the simplest next step or test?”
“What can I safely do at home while we figure this out?”
“What symptoms should make me call you sooner or get urgent care?”

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This page is educational and not medical advice. If symptoms are severe or sudden, seek urgent care.